{"id":157,"date":"2008-10-09T11:58:12","date_gmt":"2008-10-09T19:58:12","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/rayivey.com\/wordpress\/?p=157"},"modified":"2009-01-06T15:13:29","modified_gmt":"2009-01-06T23:13:29","slug":"help-me-help-you-help-us-all","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.rayivey.com\/wordpress\/help-me-help-you-help-us-all\/","title":{"rendered":""},"content":{"rendered":"<a class=\"synved-social-button synved-social-button-follow synved-social-size-48 synved-social-resolution-single synved-social-provider-facebook nolightbox\" data-provider=\"facebook\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\" title=\"Follow us on Facebook\" href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/ray.ivey1\" style=\"font-size: 0px; width:48px;height:48px;margin:0;margin-bottom:5px;margin-right:5px;\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Facebook\" title=\"Follow us on Facebook\" class=\"synved-share-image synved-social-image synved-social-image-follow\" width=\"48\" height=\"48\" style=\"display: inline; 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width:48px;height:48px; margin: 0; padding: 0; border: none; box-shadow: none;\" src=\"http:\/\/www.rayivey.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/plugins\/social-media-feather\/synved-social\/image\/social\/regular\/96x96\/instagram.png\" \/><\/a><p> <span style=\"font-size: 11pt; font-family: Verdana\">Okay,  I have a dilemma I need help with.\u00a0<\/span><span style=\"font-size: 11pt; font-family: Verdana\"><span style=\"font-size: 11pt; font-family: Verdana\">Everyone knows I&#8217;m a stickler for proper grammar,  pronunciation and spelling.\u00a0 I understand it&#8217;s not the hot-button issue for many people that it is for me.\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p> <span style=\"font-size: 11pt; font-family: Verdana\">However.\u00a0 I am continually mystified at the fact that people don&#8217;t seem to CARE if they come off as ignorant loose-tooths when they write and spell and speak.\u00a0 This I don&#8217;t get.\u00a0<\/span><span style=\"font-size: 11pt; font-family: Verdana\"><span style=\"font-size: 11pt; font-family: Verdana\">If I mispronounce a word,  I want you to correct me.\u00a0 I don&#8217;t want to continue mispronouncing it.\u00a0 I&#8217;ll thank you.\u00a0 Really.\u00a0 If I use a word incorrectly,  I want to be shown the correct use of the word.\u00a0 Really.\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p> <span style=\"font-size: 11pt; font-family: Verdana\">So what happens when you work with people who talk,  write and spell like moronic third-graders?\u00a0 What am I supposed to do when I hear people say &#8220;pacific&#8221; when they mean &#8220;specific, &#8221; or &#8220;ikscape&#8221; when they mean &#8220;escape&#8221; or &#8220;expresso&#8221; when they mean &#8220;espresso&#8221; or &#8220;sedementary&#8221; when they mean &#8220;sedentary&#8221; or &#8220;liberry&#8221; when they mean &#8220;library&#8221; or &#8220;I seen&#8221; instead of &#8220;I saw&#8221; or,  for the love of sweet,  tapdancing Jesus,  &#8220;aks&#8221; instead of &#8220;ask&#8221;?\u00a0 Really,  what am I supposed to do?\u00a0<\/span><span style=\"font-size: 11pt; font-family: Verdana\"><span style=\"font-size: 11pt; font-family: Verdana\">Do these people REALLY want to go around coming off as ignoramuses?\u00a0 Do they want to make those mistakes in their next job interview?\u00a0 Or use those words incorrectly on their next query letter or job application?\u00a0 I just can&#8217;t imagine that they would.\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p> <span style=\"font-size: 11pt; font-family: Verdana\">Once I was transcribing a tape in which the speaker kept saying &#8220;arthur&#8221; instead of &#8220;author.&#8221;\u00a0 After an hour of this I pulled off my headphones and commented about it to the colleague next to me.\u00a0 &#8220;Oh,  she&#8217;s not saying it wrong, &#8221; my bright companion said.\u00a0 <em><span style=\"font-family: Verdana\">&#8220;That&#8217;s just how she says it.&#8221;<\/span><\/em>\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><span style=\"font-size: 11pt; font-family: Verdana\"><span style=\"font-size: 11pt; font-family: Verdana\">That&#8217;s just how she says it?\u00a0 Well,  isn&#8217;t the point of language,  as Richard Feynmann famously said,  communication?\u00a0 What if I just decided that <em><span style=\"font-family: Verdana\">the way I said<\/span><\/em> &#8220;LOOK OUT!!!&#8221; 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font-family: Verdana\">But it&#8217;s not <em><span style=\"font-family: Verdana\">spelled<\/span><\/em> Shah-teese.\u00a0 If you wanted to name your baby Shahteese,  give her that name.\u00a0 What if I went around correcting people when they called me &#8220;Ray, &#8221; with the indignant correction,  &#8220;It&#8217;s pronounced &#8216;Beeblebrox&#8217;.&#8221;\u00a0 That would be pretty stupid.\u00a0<\/span><span style=\"font-size: 11pt; font-family: Verdana\"><span style=\"font-size: 11pt; font-family: Verdana\">The creepiest thing to me about this amazing American ignorance is the cheerful glee so many of these people seem to have about the fact that are making mistakes.\u00a0 &#8220;Who cares?&#8221; seems to be the prevalent attitude.\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p> <span style=\"font-size: 11pt; font-family: Verdana\">Well,  I care.\u00a0 The English language is one of our most precious bits of heritage.\u00a0 I&#8217;m not saying language is immutable,  but I do think that using the language correctly is worth working at.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><span style=\"font-size: 11pt; 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